Hi Shan. The crucial point, as you say, is
> physical differences out would require physical differences in.
> But the wave function is a description of the in-between process involving the particles, and it is not necessarily physical or ontological only because the input and output are physical.
Remember that the only noncontroversial difference between the effects of choosing a vs a’ is in the distribution of B’s (collapsed) wave function. If that is not a physical diffference, the game is over and your argument can’t work. And if it is a physical difference the game is also over: you have nonlocality with no need to continue with further hypothetical interactions, nonlinear or otherwise.
Best, Shelly